A Post for International Women’s Day

This is a story I wrote a while back and I’ve chose to post it today because things aren’t always what they seem. Myfanwy at http://chittlechattle.wordpress.com/2012/02/13/international-womens-day-part-2/ will be hosting for International Women’s Day.

Rashini’s Girl Child

The woman, Rashini, plied her goods on the Niger from Mopti, Kassoum and north to Timbuktu taking her daughter Aliyah along. Malaria had taken the child’s father when she was small and Rashini had defiantly refused to re-marry, upsetting her family who had found her a husband wanting a second wife. Rashini had seen how her mother had suffered as a junior wife and knew that she and Aliyah would become slaves. As Aliyah grew near the age of the ritual they rarely stayed in the village for long, she was fearful for her daughter. Not for her the thorns and cutting of the vile village witch, her mother was saving to have a doctor perform it cleanly.

The ferry pulled up to the river bank and the throngs of people gathered their baggage. Some had been sitting squashed in the same spot for days and their movements released aromas of unwashed body mixed with spices, saltfish and ripening fruit from their packages. They tightened their scarves around nose and mouth until they were able to breathe cleaner air on land. She thanked Allah for their safe arrival and for her daughter’s health and strength. Opening an indigo dyed bag, she found small sticks, and passed one to her daughter

‘Your teeth Aliyah, and soon we will find some breakfast’.

They had bought some flat bread made on the boat, but then disgusted threw it overboard as it was infested with worm. Arriving at Timbuktu was always joyful; there they could choose from many foods that could not be found anywhere else. Water carriers strutted around with their goatskins on their heads, containing pure, sweet water from mountain springs.

‘Ma can we have millet patties please?’

‘We have to sell the cotton first’. . .

‘And some egg?’

Rashini smiled at her child’s dancing eyes; she could deny her nothing and would protect her from all. The air in Timbuktu was hazy and relentlessly hot, harmattan had left a sandy veneer over the city. Mother and daughter carefully stepped over bits of unidentifiable animal carcass, clattering metal pans and calabashes in the river side market.

‘Timbuktu is kind to us Ali, but I never want to live in this noisy chaos, with many people whose words I can’t understand’

‘Can we go and stay in the village forever one day ma?’

Afraid to commit herself Rashini smiled but turned towards the weaver’s lanes,

‘Hurry child we need to sell before the boat comes in with big sacks of cotton’. If only we could go home and settle in peace, I’m so afraid for you.

There was a clackety clack crescendo of noise as they got closer to the Weaving Men. Here they were able to sell their best quality raw cotton, grown near their village. They lingered over tempting cotton and fine wool wrappers fresh from the looms, but hunger ruled and they headed back to the street with a full purse.

Heading towards the Tuareg women when a call through the crowd reached them,

‘Rashi hello, let’s have tea’

They exchanged greetings with Fauziya from home and headed to a shady tea stall to share news.

‘There is circumcision of six girls next month and your mother has asked for reports of you because it is Ali’s time, you must come home she says’

‘Oh you must not say you have seen us please, we will go to the hospital soon’

‘Uh . . . okay but she will be angry when she finds out’

‘No, she can say nothing, if it is done it is done, I will not allow it her way for my daughter’

They spoke of trade before parting and well breakfasted returned to the business of selling. The Tuareg women were always hungry for the thick nourishing Shea butter to protect their skin from the dryness of the Sahel which left their faces like paper so they paid well for Rashini’s supply from the far east of the Niger.

That was a lucky meeting, I was heading home for a few days rest once we had sold our stock and refilled with things to sell there. Not now though, we must go to the women’s hospital in Koutiala instead. I will never forget my marriage night. My husband broke my body. I was cut and sewn up at Ali’s age and there was no way in for him. He pushed and pushed until his penis was soft and painful then he tried for hours with his hand and a wooden tool. He couldn’t get up in the morning and face the other men without evidence of my virginity and so he found a way . . . exhausted and already in pain I must have lost consciousness when he cut . . . I woke many hours later.  Aliyah was made that night.

There was a call to prayer from the minaret nearby and Rashini thought God is great, where was he then?  She counted her savings and decided there was enough and some spare for emergencies, it was time.

‘Aliyah, we have to travel a long way now, we go to Koutiala to take care of you and it will take many days. First we must buy food for the journey’.

‘A big journey on a bus is exciting and I will be brave when we arrive ma, you will be proud of me’, she smiled but there she had a look of fear that only her mother would notice.

Mammy wagons and trotro’s were parked nose to nose in the central bus area. All were treacherously overloaded with crates and livestock headed all ways out of Timbuktu. Rashini and Aliyah wandered in search of a south bound one that looked likely to reach the destination without overturning on the sharp bends. It looked as if there wasn‘t space for a mouse on the wagons but always more squeezed on so they were as high as they were long,  travelling villages where anything could be bought at a price. Eventually they chose one that had been freshly painted, bright mottos of ‘Allah u’Akbar’ alongside ‘Jesus Saves’ and a picture of Haile Selasie suggested both a well maintained truck and a broad minded driver. It would take them to Bounadougou and then they would get a tro-tro the rest of the way.

The journey was mercifully uneventful, they passed several wagons not so blessed and were able to help themselves to produce abandoned by the roadside. Lilting music accompanied them on the journey. The trancelike rhythm of Toumani Diabate’s kora, occasionally a haunting flute quelled arguments and the engine purred like a choir of cats. The tro-tro was quick and dropped them near to the hospital. Rashini gave her daughter to the care of the doctor and waited.

She watched her while she slept on a pallet in a bare but clean room and held her in her arms as she regained consciousness. She shed no tears from her antelope eyes but allowed herself to be comforted in her pain. Later they took refuge in a cousin’s home for a few days and then began the slow journey home to the village. Rejoicing in the triumphant act, Rashini took her daughter to the enclosure and greeted her family.

‘Rashini, you have brought the girl for her circumcision at last, we have been . . .’

‘No auntie it is done, it is done in the hospital’ she said with pride.

A couple more takes on IWD

http://aipetcher.wordpress.com/2012/03/08/international-womens-day/

http://roughseasinthemed.wordpress.com/2012/03/08/international-womens-day-and-my-gibraltar-angle/

The Write Stuff, A Slight Refrain

For two days now I have been learning to write. No, not the creative type that I have studied with the Open University, but handwriting, just like this, that you may or may not be able to read. If you have paid attention, you will have seen a post a month ago, where I exposed myself as one of the worst scribes on the planet.

Last week there was a development, a patient at work commented ‘Oh you have such cute little handwriting’. It made my colleague laugh rather too much  and gave me a nice warm glow all day. It actually wasn’t cute or nearly readable like this, it was more my old style. You see,I think I might just have turned over a new leaf!

I started to think about why it is so messy. I know that part of the problem is that I am really always in a hurry but it has to be more than that. And then I remembered, a few people over the years have said that I don’t hold my pen correctly, so I looked at how others did it. It seemed to be something to do with the angle, so instead of my usual grasp,

I tried like this,

and guess what? It’s instantly better, whoop, whoop I’m so excited, I can nearly do it. At this point my daughter will be thinking special mummy and laughing her head off. But why did it go wrong in the first place? I really was neat as a child and feel a bit cheated when I could have had really stylish writing all my life. My next challenge will be to keep  trying to improve until it does look beautiful. I may have to work on making it a little bigger as well, I can remember my old boss saying my writing was too small as well as illegible and I would defensively tell him that he should be pleased that a pen would last longer because I didn’t use as much ink.

So, click on the two photos, can you all see some improvement? 🙂

100 Word Challenge for grown Ups Week #33

http://jfb57.wordpress.com/2012/03/05/100-word-challenge-for-grown-ups-week-33/

This week’s prompt from Julia is an image of one of the wonderful sculptures at the Eden Project, a Heather Jansch horse.

Apparently no-one will ‘get’ my flash this week but I’ve been dared to post it anyway!

Eden Horse

My back’s numb thank God, but I’m worried my arm’s so blue. There’s some light coming in the window, so someone’s gonna come soon. Then I’ll know my fate. I spect I’ll be out of a job. I’ve heard it’s worth thirty thousand pounds. Can’t see it myself. I was dusting see. I wondered how it stayed in one piece, so I crouched down to look for some screws. Just a tiny tug and I found out there aren’t many. It creaked, and slipped an bit, so I held it still else it’d collapse. I’ve been holding it all night.

An Igbo Marriage

My little sister got married yesterday, back home in Nigeria. I wasn’t there unfortunately, that would have been extremely complicated. More unusual, for us in the West at least, the groom wasn’t there either; the traditional wedding was conducted in absentia while he was three thousand miles away in London. Yesterday was the culmination of several months of planning starting with the Introduction Meeting between the two families to check each other out. Chibuzor is an expensive young woman with an almost royal bride price. A while ago the groom sent money to the elder men in his family, to pay to the bride’s mother, who has longed for this day. She has waited her turn to be amongst the women of the village, who share out the bounty of a bride price and wondered if the day would ever come, while her high flying daughter pursued a career in law.

And so they came, they were approved of, my sister and her husband to be breathed a sigh of relief while her mother, Felicia, received the cash to go shopping, no mean feat when the list looks something like this.

Bride price list

Cake in the shape of a palm wine pot

2 wrappers for Felicia – lace

3 blouses – Holland

2 head ties

Sandals, slippers, wristwatch, necklace (gold plated)

20kg sacks of salt,

2 x 40kg bags of rice (cost £40)

Beverages – Milo, milk, tea, cocoa,

Beauty products, skin creams, cosmetics etc

20 litres of kerosene – I for Felicia, 1 to share with the village

Palm oil and other vegetable oil (groundnut)

Stockfish

Sugar

Detergent/soap 50 bars

42 yams, some to share

Kola nuts

Alcohol for the men – gallons of palm wine, beer, Mackeson

Minerals, Fanta, coke etc

Felicia would be very happy despite the hard work and her women friends would have helped her go to market so that by yesterday a feast could take place.

The next stage of affairs will be either a court ceremony and/or a church ceremony which may even take place in London. I know they have a wonderful future ahead of them and I wish them all the love and happiness they deserve!

Weekly Photo Challenge: Distorted

As soon as I saw this weeks challenge I remembered this photo, taken in the ground of Dartington Hall in Devon. I believe the large and very old tree was struck by lightning and that the dark stuff is applied to protect its insides. It seems to have saved it thank goodness, because it’s in a row and it would be a huge loss. As well as its own twists and turns I have fresco’d it with Photoshop.

 

100 Word Challenge For Grown Ups # 32

http://jfb57.wordpress.com/2012/02/27/100-word-challenge-for-grown-ups-week32/

Because it’s leap year this week, Julia’s prompt is ‘take a leap of faith’ and my story is called,

Dogon Dreams

She’d dreamt for so long. Long faced Kanaga masks with square dark holes where eyes should be. She dreamt that staring in, was staring into her future, into the Dark Continent, to travel on the Niger to Dogon country. ‘Damn it,’ she’d said and booked a flight, a leap of faith, to Bamako.

***

A sharp sandblast of anxiety pelted her, as she stepped from the arrivals hall to a barracking mob of taxi drivers. They offered Mopti, her destination for $250. She turned, for reassurance, to the blue eyed French man she had just met. ‘Xavier, which taxi shall we choose?’

Tag – you’re it!

This game is called “Tag – you’re it!”

THE RULES:

  • You must post these rules.
  • Each person must post 11 things about him/herself on their blog. Answer the questions the “tagger” listed for you in their post,
  • And create 11 new questions for the people you tag to answer.
  • Choose 11 people to tag and link to them in the post.
  • Let each blogger know that you have tagged them                                                                     My answers to the 11 questions asked by Sonel, http://sonelscorner.wordpress.com
    1. Name one important lesson you’ve learned in life.  you can’t change yesterday, you don’t know about tomorrow so just be with today.
    2. Who or what inspires you? Being outdoors, anywhere,  to watch people.
    3. If you could travel anywhere in the world, where would you go? Mali.
    4. Name a movie title for the story of your life. Secrets and lies.
    5. What was your favorite toy as a kid? My troll collection that I used to make clothes for.
    6. If you can be a Disney character, who would you be? I would have to create my own.
    7. If you won the lottery, what is the first thing you would do? Laugh.
    8. Have you ever had something happen to you that you thought was bad but it turned out to be for the best? Being made redundant.
    9. What is something you learned last week? That there are little tube shaped gadgets to drink through that make the dirtiest water safe with it’s internal filtration thingy.
    10. If you could meet anyone, living or dead, who would you meet? My late father who I hardly knew.                                                                                                                    

      11. When you are alone what do you most enjoy doing? Writing obviously!                Now I get to tag 11 people and ask 11 questions of them.   

      For any of you guys that decide to join in this is the hardest part, my eleven questions.  Actually the really hard bit is getting rid of the silly formatting I have copied and pasted!  Feel free to  play or ignore me!

      What was the last thing you had to drink?

      Do you have a plan for tomorrow?

      Can you remember your first day at school and if you liked it?

      Have you overcome any phobias?

      Your favourite book, and why?

      A link to your most popular blog post

      What made you laugh today?

      Have you ever taken part in a protest?

      Have your ever been really, REALLY scared?

      What is the strangest thing you have even eaten?

      Will you go to heaven?

      And here are my chosen ones 🙂

      http://isobelandcat.wordpress.com/ 

       http://thescroobiouspip.wordpress.com/ 

       http://malouprestado.wordpress.com/

        http://jfb57.wordpress.com/

        http://sophomorejinx.wordpress.com/

       http://kardzbykris.wordpress.com/

        http://eof737.wordpress.com/

        http://huffygirl.wordpress.com/

      http://latebloomerbuds.wordpress.com/ 

      http://2011onthebench.wordpress.com/ 

      http://implicado.wordpress.com/

       

Sunday Post: Landscape

As part of my decision to focus more often on the UK, my photo for the Sunday post this week was taken on Dartmoor, hope you like its stark beauty.

At 368 square miles, Dartmoor is the largest and wildest area of open country in Southern England, this shot is taken from Houndtor and the granite outcrop in the distance is Haytor. I believe that some areas on the moor were used in the filming of Warhorse.

This is part of Jakes Sunday post here, http://jakesprinters.wordpress.com/2012/02/25/sunday-post-landscape/

 

RHS Rosemoor, a garden in winter

I’ve been to one of my favourite gardens today, looked after by the Royal Horticultural Society, Rosemoor is near Great Torrington and an hour from home. It’s a garden for all seasons and perhaps best known for its midsummer display of roses. Much as I love roses, it can be a bit busy there for me then and the rose garden is more formal than I like a garden to be.

At this time of the year its heaven, full of the earliest of spring flowers and shrubs and the trees look stunning in their nakedness. There is fragrance everywhere, most noticeably from Daphne, Viburnum and Box with the occasional waft of Eucalyptus. The most common snowdrops are coming to the end of their season but they have many varieties still looking fresh, crocuses are abundant, and the dwarf narcissi and hellebore are exquisite.

Rosemoor is divided into several sections, a winter garden, herbaceous, woodland, exotic and the original garden created by Lady Anne Palmer who gifted the 65 acres to the RHS. To reach Lady Anne’s garden you walk through a tunnel under the road towards the house which is surrounded by a more relaxed style of planting with Mediterranean area and the stone garden.

A very well planned vegetable garden produces an abundance of fresh food for the restaurant as well as seed for research. Right now the espaliered fruit trees are still dormant, but this really shows the skill involved in maintaining them. Strings of last season’s onions hang in a thatched summerhouse along with pumpkins, gourds and dried peppers and everywhere you walk there is an orchestra of birdsong.

Modern water features and ponds can be seen in the formal areas and there is a large lake stocked with Rudd and visited by ducks, and amphibians. The area around the lake has been refurbished since I was last there, smartened up and I prefer it as it was, but no doubt health and safety had to be considered, so it now has an improved path to the edge and a wooden bridge that I do like.

The icing on the cake today was a sculpture exhibition, a wonderful selection of art scattered throughout the garden, and great fun to turn a corner and find the next piece. It was all for sale and for those with a few thousand ponds to spare there were some very desirable things to choose from, my favourite was called ‘Refuge’ and of course was way beyond my reach.

 

I spent five hours happily wandering, it’s a very peaceful way to spend a day especially as the sun came out after lunch. Perhaps I will go back when the roses bloom or maybe when the vegetable garden reaches its zenith in August, whenever it will always be a delight!

I think I have created a pdf thingy of some of the Rosemoor sculpture photos I took, try clicking and let me know if it works!